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Why You Want to Learn from Life Experiences through Journaling

You may find yourself wondering what you can do to feel a deeper connection to yourself, others, the universe, and higher energy. Or, that a deeper connection is showing up as a simple inquiry you have around life challenges. I’m beginning a series of posts around the benefits of creating a morning awakening practice, such […]

Marrying Your Spirituality with Action

Allowing your own experience requires confidence, letting go of caring what others may think, and instead be a stand for the light you practice so hard to bring to your life experience. “We’re all in this together” is, in part, about being there for others. “We’re all connected” is more than a woo-woo phrase. Let’s do our part to honor our connectedness. To no longer stand by while injustice, inequities, abuse, and corruption exist. If you believe injustice, inequities, abuse, and corruption are not personally affecting you, they are affecting someone. And it’s that someone that you don’t personally know but are still connected to. So in a sense, it is harming you personally as well. When you look the other way and trust that it will all work out, you know in your heart that something is not working now for someone, somewhere.

What your part in this is, is for you to discover. You may discover your passion and voice and realize that standing for peace and love means taking beneficial action. And how that shows up for you is as individual as you are. You get to decide.

I’m not suggesting upping your game on social media. This isn’t about getting people to agree with you. It’s about becoming who you know you really are and sharing your authentic self.

Being Busy or Efficient Doesn’t Equal a Meaningful Life

We’re the producer, director, and actor in our daily lives. As a producer, we create our life goals. As the director, we think about how we want to come across. How we want others to see us. Not as we are, but as we want to be seen. As the actor, we work hard to ensure we achieve our goals while looking good as we achieve them. Getting our life all ship-shape. Making sure it works this way or that way. Forcing everything into place.

It’s common to force productivity on myself for the sake of, “I matter because I’m busy”. And therefore I make myself busy to matter.

Do You Know Your Purpose?

Purpose teaches us just what we came here to learn and discover about ourselves. It’s teaching us as well as allowing us to share our talents and gifts. When we uncover it we discover more about ourselves than we could ever imagine. It’s that thing that scares us and excites us all at once. Sometimes we avoid it because we don’t dare pursue it. What will others think? Will they laugh? Who am I to do that? One of the most interesting parts of life is in uncovering purpose and enjoying the ride as it morphs along the way.

Networking. Painful Lessons Learned.

The 60-second elevator speech and women’s networking luncheons are not everyone’s cup of tea. Ok, it’s not my cup of tea. But I learned to appreciate these women spending two hours connecting with each other to promote their business and help each other. Not my thing. I left my career to do what I’m doing now. Why waste even one moment doing something I don’t enjoy?

Equisite Life Lessons

Spiritual transition and awakening can bring up all sorts of nuances in one’s life. Friendships are bound to change. Some friendships will grow and others will fade away. In the meantime, there may be ill feelings that creep in as we’re both standing in the same place but perceiving it very differently. No one’s at fault here. Take a look and decide how you can still be you and be in this friendship. If not, it’s a practice in letting go and that might be the kindest thing to do.

Perfection Is Most Elusive

Honk if you don’t love parties. I don’t. I like them better than I used to but usually, I wish for a little scheduling conflict to show up so I can’t attend The Party. If it’s something I can’t get out of or have decided to push through my discomfort, I actually show up. There’s no telling how I might show up. I could be quiet, which is my old go-to. Or, I might talk a lot out of nervousness. When I used to drink socially I’d be sure to have one or two to get through the party. Sometimes I insert foot into mouth. Now that I’m more consciously intuitive I feel some people’s energy and that’s a whole new complication.

One of my life lessons and there are many, is to just be me and let go of concerning myself how others might process me. When that happens I find myself relaxing and actually enjoying the party. And if I’m not enjoying myself? I remind myself there’s nothing wrong with being an introvert and wishing I were home or on a woody path, or out on our sailboat for the night stargazing. I don’t have to apologize for what I like and don’t like. It’s time to stop feeling like I have to fit into what I feel society wants from me and instead just do whatever I want.

Rebalancing My Energy

Does change throw you off? Change can be beneficial but still challenging and stressful. Change is an opportunity to take on new experiences and evolve one’s life. My husband and my recent move brought up a lot of feelings and of course changes in our habits. Once I understood that I needed to rebalance myself energetically things the weirdness dissipated. Now we’re thriving from the recent change.

What Are My Gifts?

One question that just annoys the heck out of me is “so what’s your story”? Said with an emphasis on the word YOUR. I mean how do you even begin to answer that? Please don’t tell me I need to create and be ready with a 30-second elevator speech for that.

The second most annoying question I’ve been asked is “what are your gifts”?

Sparkles on My Lake

Our walk around my neighborhood lakes led me to feeling both misty and feeling a little vulnerable to what’s next. I know that change is good and it’s time for me to leave this home I’ve lived in for approximately 20 years. It’s time for my husband and me to look for a home we can both love. While I’m looking forward to this, we’re taking a walk in the natural areas near my current home to say goodbye to the benches I’ve sat on, the wildlife I’ve enjoyed, and my sparkly lake view.

Stepping Up To Public Speaking

When I began looking into what my purposeful work might be, my intuitive guidance suggested I speak to small groups. What?! This to me was a huge stretch. They never steer me wrong so I did. I started to speak to meetups and I joined a Toastmaster’s group for practice. Everyone’s advice and pep talks around this fear are pretty much worthless. P.S. you are not helping by telling me how confident you are as a public speaker. Just sayin’. However, when I look at why I have this fear then I can work on limiting self-beliefs and start to kick them to the curb. In the meantime, imaging the audience naked just does not work. Nor does winging it.

And It’s Only Tuesday

This particular Tuesday was full of experiences. From an appointment with my GP, to my Toastmasters talk, to forgetting my volunteer work which led to me hitchhiking. It was a first all around.

Just An Average Day

Some days and nights are not what I hope for. Just when an average day might become a headache it’s the smallest thing that brings me back to feeling grateful. It’s often the times that have the roughest edges that remind us how good we have it.

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