When It’s Time To Stop Trying So Hard

Do we want our relationships, our work, our art, our life experiences to feel good?

If so, we will need to learn to let go of trying to do life “correctly”.  Instead, we can learn how to have more fun in any and all ways possible.

I see that people are pushing and pushing to be their best.  That often includes striving to be successful, however, they perceive success.

In trying to stand out and be successful we sometimes end up mainstreaming ourselves.

We blend in by adopting the same old best practice mode as many others.

I get it.  There has to be a balance in promoting ourselves.  I’ve taken on some “best practices” too and I’m trying to learn a couple of social media thing-a-ma-bobbers.  However, for me, mastering all “the correct and proven steps” sucks the joy right out of my life.  When the joy disappears I feel stuck.  To prevent that from happening I just. have. fun.

There are best practices for everything.  I’ve heard more business success rules from people than I can shake a stick at.  

There’s always someone to help us get caught up in doing it better, right, doing whatever it is more correctly, more successfully, more their way.

Do you want to know more about my best business practices? When it’s time to stop trying so hard.

It’s going for a walk in the woods, painting, taking and editing my photos, writing, hanging out with my husband, sailing, watching a movie, enjoying a book, creating a meal, listening to music.

All the parts of my life blossom as I release my need to force things into place. 

I understand it’s best to just enjoy all aspects of my life such as work, art, relationships, cooking.

This past week, in task mode, I experienced myself starting to slouch into work is not enjoyable feelings, and I switched gears.  We went to our favorite lunch spot, ate outside, spoke with some locals, visited a couple of art galleries, took a photo to be framed, and enjoyed a farmer’s market.  When I sat down at my computer again I felt excited again about my work.

Another happy result from feeling joy is that it allows for our best ideas and creativity to blossom.

Answers to our challenges can show up more easily when we’re relaxed and at ease.

Is your intuition assisting you in learning to pay attention to how you feel?

Perhaps you have more self-awareness about what your feelings are conveying?

It doesn’t have to be OMG this is SO AMAAAAZINGGGG kind of feeling because that’s impossible to maintain all the time.  And at the other end of the spectrum, you don’t have to feel horrible when things feel icky.  The clue that you’re mastering paying attention to the range of your feelings and emotions.  From I’m in the zone, this feels nice to something doesn’t feel right.

If things don’t feel great, it’s best not to push through your feelings.  Instead of hammering away it’s best to take a break and do something else.  Allow for the enjoyment of life in any and all ways possible.