Life Lessons

Friendships - SaraDoolittle.com

I've been so confused lately about friendships.  It appears I'm in a transition period and, as a result, I feel I have some decisions to make about some of my friendships.  So much has shifted in my life over the past few years that my friendships are shifting as well.  With the country going through so many raw emotions now it's easy to get into the habit of being upset, feeling hopeless, and seeing the negative.  But those are not emotions I want to cultivate.  I get it, something very upsetting happens and we go to fear, seeing the worst in everything, feeling dread and waiting for the worst to happen.  However, my belief is that feeling hopeless and angry offers the world or me nothing of benefit, it offers only struggle.  Instead, I choose to see possibilities.  I choose to literally create what I desire.  As I'm creating positive, I'm experiencing more positive things in my life.  And, when I look back, I see a direct correlation between when I began to choose to look to myself to create better thoughts, healthier habits, and when positive experiences began to show up for me.  So I'm not budging because this is working really, really, well for me.

However nice it is to get together with people, I don't enjoy being with friends that prefer to go to fear and dread.  And, it's impossible to create what I want to create if I have fear and dread.  It's like trying to create a healthy lifestyle while smoking a pack of cigarettes. 

Being a better and kinder friend might mean allowing some friendships to fade away for our mutual benefit.