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We're all in this together

We’re All In This Together

On the one hand, we’re all different from each other. Each person is wonderfully unique. However, we all share a common experience and that’s the experience of life. Everyone has their ups and downs. But on our uniquely individual paths perhaps we can remember to collaborate and cooperate with each other. Perhaps we can learn to be less judgmental. What’s that quote? “You can’t have compassion for someone you wish were different.”

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When I Cringe I Pay Attention

Do you ever shrink from speaking up for your opinions? It’s almost comical how I hold back from being myself for fear of offending someone. Even in a business relationship where two people benefit from an honest dialog I find myself holding back. Here’s how listening to myself on a conference call illustrated just how much I put up a phony facade. Yuck! No more! It’s much healthier and more respectful to the other person to be our honest selves. Like me. Don’t like me. At least I’ll be genuine and you’ll like or dislike the real me.

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Networking. Painful Lessons Learned.

Networking. Painful Lessons Learned.

The 60-second elevator speech and women’s networking luncheons are not everyone’s cup of tea. Ok, it’s not my cup of tea. But I learned to appreciate these women spending two hours connecting with each other to promote their business and help each other. Not my thing. I left my career to do what I’m doing now. Why waste even one moment doing something I don’t enjoy?

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Equisite Life Lesson

Equisite Life Lessons

Spiritual transition and awakening can bring up all sorts of nuances in one’s life. Friendships are bound to change. Some friendships will grow and others will fade away. In the meantime, there may be ill feelings that creep in as we’re both standing in the same place but perceiving it very differently. No one’s at fault here. Take a look and decide how you can still be you and be in this friendship. If not, it’s a practice in letting go and that might be the kindest thing to do.

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Perfection is Most Elusive

Perfection Is Most Elusive

Honk if you don’t love parties. I don’t. I like them better than I used to but usually, I wish for a little scheduling conflict to show up so I can’t attend The Party. If it’s something I can’t get out of or have decided to push through my discomfort, I actually show up. There’s no telling how I might show up. I could be quiet, which is my old go-to. Or, I might talk a lot out of nervousness. When I used to drink socially I’d be sure to have one or two to get through the party. Sometimes I insert foot into mouth. Now that I’m more consciously intuitive I feel some people’s energy and that’s a whole new complication.

One of my life lessons and there are many, is to just be me and let go of concerning myself how others might process me. When that happens I find myself relaxing and actually enjoying the party. And if I’m not enjoying myself? I remind myself there’s nothing wrong with being an introvert and wishing I were home or on a woody path, or out on our sailboat for the night stargazing. I don’t have to apologize for what I like and don’t like. It’s time to stop feeling like I have to fit into what I feel society wants from me and instead just do whatever I want.

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What Relationships Can Do For Us

What Relationships Can Do For Us

If you want to move your personal and spiritual growth forward in a faster and more direct way, observe. Observe your relationships because they are the teaching ground for growth. Every single relationship in our life matters. It’s an exercise in exploring what’s showing up. Sometimes there’s pain, other times joy. But it’s always an opportunity for learning from your own experiences. The most direct and best kind of learning there is.

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Distancing Myself From Negative Nellies

Distancing Myself From Negative Nellies

There’s no law that says I have to figure out how to feel awesome while in the presence of negative people. What if I don’t have to expend any energy and effort on how to work at it. I can choose to remove myself from their presence and go on my merry way. There’s nothing wrong with me if I’m not able to enjoy someone’s company, particularly mean people. If it looks like an unpleasant situation then I can take myself out of it. And it takes little to no effort to do so. Done. Problem solved.

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It Can Be A Real Drag But People Are Great Teachers

It Can Be A Real Drag But People Are Great Teachers

My serving on my homeowners board is a microcosm of the larger political institution in our country. There’s politics, misinformation, anger, hate, frustration, distrust, paranoia. Did I mention misinformation?! I had to learn that I always have a choice. There’s no rule or law that says I have to stay in a horribly negative environment. I had the opportunity to walk and return to peace, joy, calm, cooperation, collaboration, trust, compassion, and patience. But unfortunately, I wanted to control the situation thinking that would make everything better. It didn’t. This was a lesson for me in letting go and allowing others to be who they are. At any point in time, I could have resigned and returned to where I’m experiencing something so much kinder and lovelier.

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